Moms have it easy*

Being a dad can be a miserable job. For at least three months in the early child’s life, you’re plain useless, no matter how hard you try. The child will not acknowledge your existence, except in the form of unstoppable baby cries that are heartbreaking and adorable at the same time. And at various timesContinue reading “Moms have it easy*”

That’s my boy!

I know I had it coming. For about a week long, our trip has been amazing, and the the kiddos behaved like two little angels. Last night, the huge amount of impulses landed in those little brains over the course of the past week, simply had become too much for our son Rafa. We alreadyContinue reading “That’s my boy!”

About yesterday…

I wrote in yesterday’s post how parenting made my perfectionism very palpable. I described several situations where certain playful activities with my son elicited an almost visceral response to my perfectionist soul – regardless how much I enjoy the activities themselves. I think the concept was easy to follow, but I had nothing to illustrateContinue reading “About yesterday…”

A solid nine

After one and a half week away from home and sleeping in Airbnb’s and hotels, I finally arrived back home. I love traveling, I love seeing new places, but I also love sleeping in my own bed. Perhaps that’s why I love my campervan so much. At least I bring my own bed with meContinue reading “A solid nine”

I’m taking a break

I’m taking a little break. Like literally! I’m sitting in my car, parked along the side of some back road, under the shade of some friendly birch trees. I thought I had gotten quite good at prepping the little one for an afternoon nap. For months on end it went very well. I would usuallyContinue reading “I’m taking a break”

Who are you!?

It’s been one week since the birth of my daughter. At first, it seemed like our two-year old son really liked having a sister. He was super cute with her, and really careful in touching her. A real caring brother. Nothing makes a father more proud than seeing a young toddler being so caring towardsContinue reading “Who are you!?”

Daddy issues

Today it is Ascension Day – a day that we of course all well know for, well, whatever. I wasn’t raised Christian, so to be honest I couldn’t care less what it is known for. It is a public holiday (at least in Germany and The Netherlands), which means I get to spend the dayContinue reading “Daddy issues”

Connection issues

I’m not gonna lie. The first time around, I found it pretty strange to ‘connect’ to my unborn child, during the entire pregnancy, which was roughly two years ago. The first few months, there is nothing. My wife didn’t look very pregnant. She said she felt different, but I didn’t notice much of it. SheContinue reading “Connection issues”

Germany you should – a series (part 3)

When you’re expecting or raising kids, being in Germany is fantastic. Why? In the Netherlands*, the conditions to become parents are pretty grim. My country hates kids. Mothers get four months of maternity leave, which includes the weeks before the baby is born. I guess the government thinks dads should not be involved in raisingContinue reading “Germany you should – a series (part 3)”