Was social always this exhausting?

This pandemic is detrimental to my social skills, or at least to the way they affect me and my mental state. I was never the most extraverted person. Not a fantastic person on parties. But I could hold a conversation without problems, and they would often give me energy. I also greatly enjoyed coffee breaksContinue reading “Was social always this exhausting?”

Like meeting an old friend

One of my oldest friends – if not the oldest – has lived in Asia since 2014, and for the most of it, he’s been working as a teacher in China. We’ve been friends for close to 25 years. We went to high school together, and share many similarities in our personal life histories. It’sContinue reading “Like meeting an old friend”

I almost thought I had lost her

Relationships come and go. I have experienced this over the past few years all too clearly. I have ‘lost’ friendships over the past decade that I thought I would never lose. Friends I spoke to and saw every day less than a decade ago now don’t even know I have a kid, and even haveContinue reading “I almost thought I had lost her”

Deep connect

This evening, I had a short conversation on Facebook Messenger (of all places) with an old friend that I had not spoken to in two years. She bumped into a horrible old picture of me on a field excursion we enjoyed together during our Biology studies, I think this particular expedition was in 2009. SheContinue reading “Deep connect”

The price we pay?

The long-distance relationship format sucks in almost all types of relationships, except academic/professional relationships. Yet, it seems to have become an unwritten rule that if you want to make it in academia, you have to move around, and preferably abroad. What kind of fucked up rule is this, really? When I finished my PhD, IContinue reading “The price we pay?”